Tag Archives: relationships

The One, Yourself

Dr. Cyndi Briggs lives in Winston-Salem and teaches at UNCC and Guilford Colllege.  She's very active online – you can find her blog here and you can also follow her on Twitter – and writes a lot of stuff that quite frankly aren't in the sweet spot of your average American dude.  

If you're like this American dude and constantly trying to figure out what makes women tick, especially the women in your family, then reading her stuff can be an educational experience. All of which is to explain how I came to listen to her piece on WFDD after she mentioned it on Twitter and had a real "a-ha" moment after listening to it. Let's just say I'm going to make sure my daughter listens to it because I think it's that important, and I highly recommend you listen to it too even if you're not a dudette.

Marry Well

This quote from David Brooks was found on Rex Hammock's blog.

“The first thing to worry about: Will I marry well? This is the most important decision you’re going to make in your life. If you have a great marriage and a crappy career, you will be happy. If you have a great career and a crappy marriage, you will be unhappy. I tell university presidents that since the marriage decision is so central, they should have academic departments on how to marry. They should teach the neuroscience of marriage, the sociology of marriage, the psychology of marriage. Everybody should get a degree in how to marry. Nobody listens to me. So give yourself a degree. Read Jane Austen novels or George Eliot novels. Learn how to think about this problem from the masters. And take your time.”

Absolutely right. Here's some more advice: one component of a happy marriage is the willingness to be wrong even when you're right. If we're being politically correct we'll say that this applies to everyone, but if we're being realistic we'll say that this applies almost exclusively to dudes.

Real Men Ignore the Twerps

At Letters of Note we find this letter from Ronald Reagan to his son Michael in the days before Michael's wedding. Basically, it's about the true value of remaining faithful and in it he provides the best definition of being a "man" that I've seen:

Sure, there will be moments when you will see someone or think back to an earlier time and you will be challenged to see if you can still make the grade, but let me tell you how really great is the challenge of proving your masculinity and charm with one woman for the rest of your life. Any man can find a twerp here and there who will go along with cheating, and it doesn't take all that much manhood. It does take quite a man to remain attractive and to be loved by a woman who has heard him snore, seen him unshaven, tended him while he was sick and washed his dirty underwear. Do that and keep her still feeling a warm glow and you will know some very beautiful music.