I’d Like to Buy Davis Cup Tickets, but…

Tickets for the Davis Cup tie in April here in Winston-Salem went on sale at 10 a.m. this morning for USTA members.  The USTA phone line they provided to order tickets has been busy every time I’ve tried to call (1 hour 15 minutes so far). No online sales, so the 888 number is the only way to order. I’d have thought that they anticipated high demand for the tickets, but for whatever reason didn’t expand their call center operations.  I’m getting a little irked.

**Update** I just called the USTA member support line and found out from Lynn (very nice lady) that the company handling ticket sales has 170 lines dedicated to ticket sales, and that they’ve been overwhelmed to the point that people are being bounced to a line for an event at the Rose Bowl, and that the only thing we can do is keep trying the same number.  Unfortunately they USTA customer service folks can’t take ticket orders and Lynn informed me that they’ve been getting hammered with calls similar to mine and she wished they could be more helpful.  I’m a lot less frustrated now that I’ve talked to a live person, and now I just hope I don’t get locked out of good seats.

**Update #2** Finally got through at 2:30 and the member allocation of tickets is already gone.  I’ll have to try on Monday when they open up to the general public.  Membership has its privileges, huh?

Why are you really sorry?

Today’s "controversy of the day", at least for the morning, is what ex-NBA player Tim Hardaway said when he was asked about he would handle having a gay (homosexual, not happy) teammate.  Here’s what he said:

You know, I hate gay people, so I let it be known," Hardaway said. "I
don’t like gay people and I don’t like to be around gay people. I am
homophobic. I don’t like it. It shouldn’t be in the world or in the
United States…

And second of all, if he was on my team, I would, you know, really
distance myself from him because, uh, I don’t think that’s right. And
you know I don’t think he should be in the locker room while we’re in
the locker room. I wouldn’t even be a part of that.

Yowch.  His statements are definitely politically incorrect, obviously objectionable to many people and just as obviously reflective of his true feelings.  And I’d hazard a guess that his views are shared by many of his NBA peers and by a fairly large segment of the population.  Personally I don’t share his views, but they are his views and he’s being brutally honest about his feelings with his comments.

Well, not 24 hours after his comments hit the airwaves Hardaway has issued an apology.  Here’s an excerpt from an ESPN.com story about the controversy:

Hardaway, later saying he regretted the remarks, apologized for the
remarks during a telephone interview with Fox affiliate WSVN in Miami.

"Yes, I regret it. I’m sorry. I shouldn’t have said I hate gay people or anything like that," he said. "That was my mistake."

Well, I’m sure he is sorry for making the comments.  He’s probably lost a lot of future dollars from media and PR gigs and I’ll bet he is sorry for that.  But is he sorry for hating gay people?  I doubt it, and in our society I don’t know if we can or should demand that people apologize for expressing their true feelings.  Nothing says we have to agree with them, or support them, but their feelings are as legitimate as anyone elses.  If anything we should say, "I hear what you’re saying and here’s why I think you’re wrong."  Instead we shout "You’re wrong you bigoted asshole!" and then wait for the public bowing down and apology.

Our airwaves are filled with celebrities, athletes, politicians and other infamous folk who open their mouths, utter something considered objectionable by a segment of the population, and then when they figure out they might lose money or status they issue an apology.  Their apologies are sincere in that they really regret making trouble for themselves, but otherwise they ring hollow as a damage containment tool.

For once I’d like someone to say something like, "I know most people don’t agree with what I said, but it’s what I believe and that’s that.  Maybe I should learn to say nothing if I’ve got nothing nice to say, but it’s too late for that now so if you disagree with me let’s talk about it."  Unfortunately we don’t seem to have people in the public eye willing to do that.

What’s real interesting about the Hardaway story is the reaction of John Amaeche, an ex-NBA player who came out of the closet in a book he recently wrote.  Amaeche’s book has caused a big stir in the NBA universe and is what prompted the interviewer to ask Hardaway about his feelings on having a gay teammate. Here’s what Amaechi said:

Finally, someone who is honest. It is ridiculous, absurb, petty,
bigoted and shows a lack of empathy that is gargantuan and
unfathomable. But it is honest. And it illustrates the problem better
than any of the fuzzy language other people have used so far.

Exactly.  Without people like Hardaway, people who say what they really feel, we don’t stand a chance of having an honest conversation about issues like these.  And without an honest conversation we don’t ever get any closer to understanding each other’s position.  In Amaeche’s words we will continue to have a gargantuan and unfathomable lack of empathy.

So they’re Double-Ds muscle-wise?

We’re having dinner last night and my daughter is telling us about
a girl at school who is really muscular.  The following exchange
occured:

Daughter (13 years old, seventh grade): "So,
like this girl bends over to tie her shoes, and like, her muscles
bulge out.  They’re like, huge!  And this boy, he like
looks over and like says ‘Man your muscles are huge.’ And the girl
says, like, ‘Stop it you’re embarassing me’."

Youngest Son (10 years old, fifth grade):
"So they’re Double-Ds muscle-wise?"

Entire family (Dad-40 going on 100, Mom-Age not
defined out of sheer self preservation, Brother-14, 8th grade and
aforementioned sister):
Moment of shocked silence followed by
uproarious laughter.  Then almost simultaneously all four ask,
"You know what Double-Ds are?"

Fifth grade son: Turns eight shades of red and
nods his head.

Dad (now going on 120): "So what are they?"

Fifth grade son: "You know…boobs."

Fade to black for childhood, or parental, innocence.

Lofts to Keep Old Farts on Their Toes

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My Mom’s greatest fear is losing her mind.  At least that’s the excuse she uses for the hours she spends playing video games and solving crosswords, acrostics and Sudokus.  She cites research showing that geezers who engage in such activities maintain sharper minds.  Hell, I’ll take her word for it since I enjoy wasting my time on such activities as much as she does.

It seems that a Japanese architect believes in helping old farts feel act more like young farts by designing condos that challenge them to stay on their toes.  The condos, pictured above, are described in this article thusly:

Most people, in choosing a new home, look for comfort: a serene
atmosphere, smooth walls and floors, a logical layout. Nonsense, says
Shusaku Arakawa, a Japanese artist based in New York. He and his
creative partner, poet Madeline Gins, recently unveiled a small
apartment complex in the Tokyo suburb of Mitaka that is anything but
comfortable and calming. "People, particularly old people, shouldn’t
relax and sit back to help them decline," he insists. "They should be
in an environment that stimulates their senses and invigorates their
lives."

With that in mind, Arakawa and Gins designed a building of nine
apartments known as Reversible Destiny Lofts. Painted in eye-catching
blue, pink, red, yellow and other bright colors, the building resembles
the indoor playgrounds that attract toddlers at fast-food restaurants.
Inside, each apartment features a dining room with a grainy, surfaced
floor that slopes erratically, a sunken kitchen and a study with a
concave floor. Electric switches are located in unexpected places on
the walls so you have to feel around for the right one. A glass door to
the veranda is so small you have to bend to crawl out. You constantly
lose balance and gather yourself up, grab onto a column and
occasionally trip and fall.

Even worse, there’s no closet space; residents will have to find a
way to live there, since the apartment offers only a few solutions.
"You’ll learn to figure it out," says Arakawa. Ten minutes of stumbling
around is enough to send even the healthiest young person over the
edge. Arakawa says that’s precisely the point. "[The apartment] makes
you alert and awakens instincts, so you’ll live better, longer and even
forever," says the artist.

If this concept takes off I think there’s a great business opportunity in opening an urgent care center in the lobby.

 

Sometimes the Grass is Browner

While I was at the Frost & Sullivan conference last week in Anaheim I met a guy who had worked in Greensboro years ago, moved to DC and then moved on to Michigan.  The conversation was particularly interesting to me because he knew the two housing markets I had dealt with, DC and the Piedmont Triad, and while he agreed that it was a very positive move my family made from DC to NC (sold in a sellers market and bought in a buyers market) his move from DC to Michigan was even stronger.  In fact he said he almost feels guilty because the market in Michigan is so depressed that the deal he got on his house was almost "criminal".

To give me a taste of how bad the economy is in Michigan he told me that the unemployment rate in Michigan is the highest in the country. I just checked and it’s 7.1% which makes Michigan second to last, in front of only Mississippi’s 7.5%.  That makes North Carolina’s  4.9% (36th in the nation) seem not so bad by comparison. 

By the way Virginia is tied with Montana for third lowest unemployment rate in the country at 2.9%.  The job market in Northern Virginia is so strong that they actually worry about finding enough workers and finding a place to house them.  That equates to high salaries that are eaten up by astronomical housing prices, over-crowded schools, world-class traffic congestion and the flight of at least one family to the embrace of the Piedmont Triad.

Worse for Michigan is that things seem to be continuing downhill after Chrysler announced today that they’re eliminating another 13,000 jobs.  Here in NC there aren’t a whole lot of manufacturing jobs left to lose and the service, biotech, tech and financial sectors seem to be gearing up for growth.  In addition NC is becoming a retiree destination, which isn’t something I think you’ll see happen in Michigan until global warming really kicks into gear.

 

Just goes to show that while the grass often seems greener on the other side of the fence you can be certain that someone in the neighborhood has a lawn with more weeds than yours.

“Good systems don’t require saints but bring out the best in sinners”

The title of this post is a sentence in an editorial titled "Truth in Affordable Housing" by a Harvard economist named Edward Glaeser.  It’s an interesting piece about Massachusetts’ effort to push developers to build affordable housing, the challenges of creating the proper incentives for the developers and the nature of people in general.  I think this sentence will someday define my business:
"Good systems don’t require saints but bring out the best in sinners."

Glaeser has another interesting column on the anything-but-free roads we enjoy.  Basically he advocates the use of tolls, "smart" tolls in particular, to help ease congestion in major metropolitan areas since we pay for our "free" roads with hours spent in traffic.  As a former DC-traffic sufferer it was of great interest to me.

I’m a Slob, but…

TrashcarI’m one of those guys who’s happy washing and vacuuming my car a couple of times a year.  I also don’t mind my trunk getting a little cluttered and having stuff on the floor in front of my passenger seat, or having it on my back seat.  If I’m giving someone a ride and I haven’t had time to clean it out I’ll apologize for the mess, but that’s just to be polite.  If they’ve got a problem with it they can always ride with someone else.

Still, I’m not even in the minor leagues when it comes to car-slobbery.  The picture above shows the car of a woman who had an accident because the trash spilled into the driver area and made her brakes and accelerator impossible to use.  Just check out that pile!

Cool Cupcake Carrier

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I’ve created a new category called "Product Alert" in which I will store all the cool stuff I come across that I’d like to buy or might want to buy for someone I like.  I guess if I find products for people I don’t like I’ll have to come up with another category.  Anyway the first entry in the Product Alert category is the Cupcake Courier.  No more battling your way into your childs classroom for her birthday with two cake tins covered in aluminum foil, or if you’re sophisticated two of those Tupperware contraptions.  This handy-dandy little carrier allows you to easily tote enough cupcakes to feed 36 of those little bast****, er, children.

Would I Have Done the Same?

Often when I get into discussions about history I often wonder how I would have handled things if I’d been living then.  For instance if I’d been a wealthy land owner in the South around 1850 would I have been a slave owner?  If I’d been living here in Winston-Salem 50 years ago how would I have handled segregation?

Today I read two pieces that prompted me to re-visit these questions.  First was an editorial in the Winston-Salem Journal titled "Confronting History".  The editorial is about a man named Peter Hairston who was a descendant of plantation owners.  He opened up his family archives, without setting limitations, to a historian so that there would be a full understanding of his family’s past.  From the editorial:

Hairston, a former
judge and legislator, was candid, too candid for some. For example, in
1991 he told the Journal that, while he hoped he wouldn’t have owned
slaves, "it was the labor system of the time, and anybody who grew up
and saw the mill villages of the early part of this century knows full
well that the slaves were far better treated … It would have been
very easy, I think, for someone now to have a guilt trip, except that
the effort, the sheer effort of looking after these people, letting
them come and go but also keeping them in very old age … has long
since bridged any gap of who owes whom what."

Yet this was the
same man who talked his local school-board members into submitting to
integration without a fight in 1969 by appealing to their sense of
practicality, Henry Wiencek writes in The Hairstons: An American Family
in Black and White.

Hairston, a central
figure in that 1999 book, freely opened his family’s history to
Wiencek, wanting nothing but the truth. "He encouraged me to dig into
it no matter where it would lead … Someone else would have just as
soon let these things stay silent," Wiencek said last week.

The result was a
groundbreaking work that eloquently chronicled the histories of the
white Hairstons, the slaveowners; and the black Hairstons, their slaves
– including their shared blood.

The second piece was an article on The Washington Post’s website about Drew Gilpin Faust the woman recently named to be Harvard’s next president.  It ends up that when Faust was nine years old she wrote a letter to President Eisenhower to let him know how she felt about segragation.  At the time, 1957, she lived in rural Virginia in a fairly prominent local family. Here’s an excerpt:

The child’s plea for an end to the separation of the races, so at odds
with what she heard at home and at her all-white Millwood school, was
forever fixed in her memory as she became a leading scholar on the
Civil War South and an advocate for a bigger role in national life for
minorities and women…

When, having decided as a historian that she ought to track down
that childhood letter to the president, and having found it at the
Dwight D. Eisenhower Presidential Library in Abilene, Kan., she
realized it was probably inspired by something about the battles over
Virginia school desegregation she had heard on the radio while being
driven home from school by her family’s black handyman, Raphael Johnson.

In
a 2003 article in Harvard Magazine, Faust said, "I asked Raphael if
what I had just understood was true, whether I would be excluded from
my school if I painted my face black. I came and wrote these very words
in my letter, not now as a question but already transformed into a
declaration of outrage to the president. ‘If I painted my face black I
wouldn’t be let in any public schools etc. My feelings haven’t changed,
just the color of my skin.’

"What I remember is that Raphael did
not answer my question. My probings about the unarticulated rules of
racial interaction made him acutely uncomfortable; he was evasive. But
his evasion was for me answer enough. How was it possible that I never
asked that question or saw those realities until I was nine years old?
How could I have not noticed before?"…

When Faust opened the copy of the letter sent from Abilene, she was
surprised at the religious arguments she used, because she did not
remember her family being such serious Episcopalians. Jesus Christ, she
informed the president, was born to save "not only white people but
black yellow red and brown."

If anything, she said, the
instruction she remembered at church seemed to reinforce the old values
with which she was so uncomfortable, in regard to both race and gender.
She remembered the Sunday her father had to substitute for her Sunday
school teacher. After a discussion of the story of Samson and Delilah,
he asked the class what was the moral of the tale. When none of the
children spoke up, he gave his view: "Never trust a woman."

What struck me about Hairston is that he was unflinchingly honest about slavery.  Realistically, how many people running a large plantation in the south in 1850 would have risked their livelihood by not having slaves?  If I had to be honest with myself I’d have to say I might have dealt with the situation by making sure that all of my people were treated well, but I probably wouldn’t have totally rebelled against the system.  But again, I really don’t know.

The article about Faust seemed a little more relevant to my life, which makes sense since I was born just 9 years after she wrote the letter.  I was too young to remember the state-sanctioned segregation, but I definitely remember the early years of de-segregation.  Ironically though I think my best clue about how I might have handled segregation comes from my middle school and high school years.

In 8th grade the country was in the middle of the Iran hostage crisis.  Because we lived in Arlington, VA I had a lot of international students in my school, including quite a few Iranian kids whose parents had worked for the Shah’s regime and were now essentially refugees in America.  Being 13 and 14 year olds we didn’t understand the nuances of the crisis, we just knew that Iran was now our enemy.  You can imagine how some of the Iranian kids were treated, but I’m happy to say that while I had no close Iranian friends I wasn’t afraid to be seen with them in the halls, working together in class or sitting together in the cafeteria.  I couldn’t understand how they could be held responsible for what was going on in Iran, especially since they’d been living in the States for years.  I just didn’t buy the concept of judging people by what nationality or religion they were.

On the other hand I’m no rebel.  I’ll stand up for what I believe, but I don’t think I’d have been a civil rights marcher.  If I’d been born in 1936 instead of 1966 I have a feeling my approach would have been to treat everyone, black or white, decently within the social context of the time.  I’m pretty sure I’d have voted for anyone advocating civil rights, but I seriously doubt I’d have had the guts to risk bodily harm by standing arm in arm at a protest.  I’d also have probably gone to Vietnam rather than protest.  Like I said, I’m no rebel.

In today’s world I can tell you that I’m made uncomfortable by any person or institution that treats people a certain way based on their race, religion, sexual orientation, etc.  People are complex and they should each be judged on their individual actions.  I’ve met plenty of religious folk who I’m pretty sure are going to hell, and I’ve met atheists who might end up in heaven despite themselves.  I’ve met people of all races who I’d like to call friends for life, and I’ve met people of all races who are grade-A assholes.

It’s really very simple: I ask only that I be treated with the same respect I hope that I show others.  That means that I’m ashamed that I probably wouldn’t have had the gumption to buck the system in the past, but I’m awful glad I never had to confront those situations.  I’m also very impressed by those who do have the gumption to stand up and fight. 

In today’s world we’re confronted by issues like homelessness, renewed religious strife (anti-Muslim, anti-Christian, anti-Jew), homophobia and any number of other issues that divide people based on what they are.  I find that I’m not the fighter that people like Cara Michele are, but I hope that what support I do give somehow helps.