That is Her Essence

I've been following Rex Hammock online for many years.  This morning he wrote about the death of his 96-year old mother and as part of that post he shared something he'd written on Mother's Day in 2009 that I found extremely touching:

“Whether or not it is true, I’d like to believe that dementia has slowly peeled away all my mother’s memory and thoughts until she has reached the essence of who she is. And for her, that essence is complete and total love and joy. While it is sad that she does not know who I am when I visit her, that sadness is more than compensated by the way in which she showers love on me — and all others — with whom she comes in contact. She is still funny. She loves people. And she loves God. That is her essence. That is her reality. For the past couple of years, I’ve observed that my mother has reached a state of being that is like that described in some eastern and new-age religions as being “in the moment” or the state of now. There is no future or past. Just this moment. And so, embrace the joy this moment brings. (While that may be an eastern way of viewing things for others, for her it’s very much Southern Baptist.) The journey through dementia can be cruel and contain great sorrow. But for my mother, it has brought her to a place where only this moment is real. And, for her, the only real thing is love.” 

Lazy Teenage Superheroes

In the evolving world of digital video the dollar is becoming much less important when compared to talent and imagination.  Case in point is Lazy Teenage Superheroes, a short film that the filmmaker says cost him $300 to make.  Embedded is a video of the behind the scenes action during the making of the film.  A warning about the actual film: don't watch it if you're put off by bad language, references to VD or juvenile humor of any kind. 

 

Ever Wanted to Drop It All and Just GO?

If you're of any maturity at all (i.e. old), have a busy life, lots of responsibility, and generally have to make time for yourself and your significant other, then you've probably daydreamed of dropping it all and driving off into the sunset. I know I've had that daydream many times, so when a fellow I've had the pleasure to meet over a cup of coffee did just that with his wife I looked on with just a wee bit of envy.  Thankfully he took lots of folks along for the ride by blogging about it, so if you want to see what it's like to live the dream then you should check out Traveling With Bum.

Dis-integration

The goings-on at the Wake County school board probably hit close to home in Forsyth County, what with our county's move to the zoned school choice (or whatever it's called) a while back.  That happened before we moved to Lewisville so I'm only personally familiar with the current system, and I have to say that as a family we're pretty happy with having our kids go to school just a few minutes down the road. That said, I don't necessarily think that neighborhood schools are better by default.

To help give you my perspective let me tell you that I grew up in Northern Virginia in the 70s and early 80s.  The first school system I was in, Fairfax County, at the time was evolving from rural to suburban, and even with busing there wasn't a lot of integration to be had. When I was in 7th grade my family moved to Arlington County, which was a much more urban area, and you really didn't need to do much to integrate because it just kind of happened naturally; racially mixed, middle class, wealthy and poor neighborhoods existed in every geographic school zone.  The one thing they did do is bus all the English as a Second Language (ESL) kids to one school so that they had all the ESL faculty in one place, and my middle school happened to be that school.  Oh, and the move happened in the middle of the school year so one Friday I got off the school bus from my 90+% white, middle class school and on Monday I got on a bus to go to a school that was probably less than 50% white, 50+% every other race you could name, and Lord knows what economic breakdown.  I learned more about people in the subsequent years in the Arlington County schools than I had before or have since.

So while I don't think you should discount the importance of community, and some of the inherent advantages of having kids go to school close to home, I also don't think you should discount some of the advantages of providing kids the opportunity to spend their days with a cross section of our society.  I'm not smart enough to have all the answers, but I do know that we need to make sure for our kids' sake that we make decisions with all of their best interests at heart.  I think that one of the reasons the Wake County board's move is creating so much controversy is that many folks think that might not be the case.  I'll leave it to the comedian to explain:

 

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Higher Ed Cuts Hitting Close to Home

North Carolina is facing a massive budget deficit and as a result all government institutions are looking at making some rather large cuts to their budgets.  The state's education system is no exception, and while people are rightly focusing on job cuts at the K-12 level, as the father of a high school senior, junior and freshman I'm more than a little interested in what's happening at the higher ed level.

Over the past weekend I sat with my son as he sent in applications to five North Carolina institutions of higher learning.  I, of course, provided the one tool he needed: ye old credit card.  A few keystrokes on the computer and couple of hundred bucks in application fees later he'd submitted his applications and the waiting game is on.  Sure I'm excited, but I'm also filled with trepidation as I see stories about potential cutbacks at the schools he's applying to, including NC State.

Don't get me wrong, I don't think it's the end of the world.  I know at least one retired professor who thinks higher education is reaping what it sowed over the years and that maybe the current crisis is providing a much-needed house cleaning for the industry.  I'm also of the belief that the benefit of someone's education is more dependent on that person's input than on the class size he's encountering, but that doesn't change the fact that a professor's ability to do his job is directly impacted by the number of students he has to teach.  And then there's the issue that Patrick Eakes brings up in a comment at Ed Cone's blog referencing the NC State article mentioned above:

It was already hard enough to graduate at State on time for some technical degrees when I was there. Undergrad engineering degrees required about 17 hours per semester, often with required labs that offered no or almost no credit hours toward that goal.

It was also pretty challenging to get the few sections offered in some classes to sequence properly semester after semester. Reductions in class offerings will almost certainly officially turn the engineering degrees into what they have unofficially been for some time – a five year degree.

Patrick makes a great point, although I must say I didn't need any help turning myself into a five year degree guy…in English Lit!

As far as tuition goes I'd love for my kids to enjoy the low current tuition rates, but even with the proposed tuition hikes I think the students lucky enough to get into North Carolina's public universities are getting a pretty good deal.  That's assuming, of course, that they don't become professional students and stay in school until their 30, move home, live in the basement and play Xbox Live for 18 hours a day while eating Twinkies. That vision of my own kids' future, however unlikely, is my newest recurring nightmare.

America’s Got Talent

I wake up every day and silently thank Al Gore for inventing the internet precisely because I get to see talent like this on display on a regular basis.  I mean, if it wasn't for the internet bringing this stuff right to my computer I'd have to be satisfied with the weekly reruns of Lawrence Welk on WUNC.  Brilliant I tell you, just brilliant:

 

Forsyth County Elections Director Allegedly Called a Jerk By State Official

Yes! Weekly's Jordan Green posted a story about allegations that Forsyth County Elections Director Rob Coffman used an inappropriate term when speaking to an employee.  In part of the story Green relates part of a recording made when the State Election Board's general counsel, Don Wright, met with the employee making the allegations and provides a pretty interesting quote:

“There’s no question that Rob Coffman can be the biggest jerk in the world,” Don Wright told Vanderklok during their meeting at the Clemmons library. “You’re right: It’s been consistent from Day 1. He’s consistent. The question is: How does that affect the operation of the office?”

Well, in subsequent paragraphs the question seemed to be answered:

The alleged “MILF” remark to Vanderklok is among a string of similarly inappropriate comments that former staff members have attributed to Coffman.

Cox and Pamela Johnson, another former employee, told YES! Weekly that in September 2008 Coffman humiliated an African-American woman employed as a temporary worker as the “local crack ho on loan to us from the jail.”

Don Wright alluded to the remark during his meeting with Vanderklok, suggesting that he and other top officials at the State Board of Elections have been apprised of it.

Coffman did not deny having made the “crack ho” remark.

“I went through a training that was not necessarily diversity, but it was racial relations,” he said.

“There was one issue in 2008,” he added. “Is that a pattern?”

Cox, who retired from the board of elections in March 2010 following several months on medical leave, said he learned that Coffman told staff that Cox “was out on sick leave having a sex change operation.”

Coffman denied making the statement. He also denied an allegation by Vanderklok and Johnson that he made fun of a current employee for her weight, calling her a “blob.”

“How can you say that doesn’t affect the office?” Vanderklok asked Don Wright. “I think it creates a hostile work environment.”

Elsewhere in the article we learn that there are various reasons that they might be keeping Coffman around.  One is that Wright, and presumably others at the state level, think that the number two in the office is a wet blanket.  Another is that the employees don't want to have to be in the same room as Coffman if they are to meet with the Forsyth board members to air their complaints, and the board feels that Coffman should have the right to confront his accusers.  A third reason is that one of the three members of the Forsyth board feels that "It’s old news. I think it’s just a bunch of disgruntled employees that are unhappy because they’re not working there anymore. All this stuff has been addressed.”

It's an interesting read, especially since there's even some talk about faulty procedures in the counting of absentee ballots.

Results of the Labor of Love at The Children’s Home

Last February anyone who reads this blog probably got a little tired of me constantly writing about the Labor of Love project the Triad Apartment Association (the organization that pays me to work for them for some reason) took on at The Children's Home.  Well, we had no idea that Fox 8 was going to do a story about how The Children's Home is using the building but it sure made our weekend when it aired.  

BTW, you'll note in the story that they're looking to renovate another floor so they can house more kids.  We actually fixed up every floor in the building, but my understanding is that there are lots of additional safety measures that have to be in place in order to move kids in.  They are looking for $10,000-$15,000 to get that done so if you want to help out you can do so by contacting The Children's Home, or if you want just drop me a note and I'll hook you up with the appropriate people at the Home.

 

 

That room that she mentions is her favorite?  Well it was my favorite too.  Here's a photo gallery of all the work that was done to get it to its current state:

So What Would a Virginia Dollar Buy?

When I first heard about this I thought it was a prank:  Apparently a resolution has been put forward in Virginia to establish a subcommittee to explore the possibility of Virginia establishing its own currency. Total aside: wouldn't it be great if I could print JonDollars and buy stuff with it?  Back on topic, from the resolution:

WHEREAS, an adequate system of governmental finance and a sound and robust private economy cannot be maintained in the absence of a sound currency; and

WHEREAS, the present monetary and banking systems of the United States, centered around the Federal Reserve System, have come under ever-increasing strain during the last several years, and will be exposed to ever-increasing and predictably debilitating strain in the years to come; and

WHEREAS, many widely recognized experts predict the inevitable destruction of the Federal Reserve System’s currency through hyperinflation in the foreseeable future; and

WHEREAS, in the event of hyperinflation, depression, or other economic calamity related to the breakdown of the Federal Reserve System, for which the Commonwealth is not prepared, the Commonwealth’s governmental finances and Virginia’s private economy will be thrown into chaos, with gravely detrimental effects upon the lives, health, and property of Virginia’s citizens, and with consequences fatal to the preservation of good order throughout the Commonwealth; and

WHEREAS, Virginia can avoid or at least mitigate many of the economic, social, and political shocks to be expected to arise from hyperinflation, depression, or other economic calamity related to the breakdown of the Federal Reserve System only through the timely adoption of an alternative sound currency that the Commonwealth’s government and citizens may employ without delay in the event of the destruction of the Federal Reserve System’s currency; and…

The resolution's patron represents the 13th district of the Virginia House which is the neck of the woods where my family lived before moving to NC. He's a tad conservative as evidenced by some of the other bills he's championed:

  • One man, one woman Marriage Amendment approved by voters (2006)
  • Steroid Use by Public School Athletes prohibited (2005)
  • Conflict of Interest Laws for Public Officials & Zoning Boards tightened (2003)
  • National Motto, “In God We Trust,” posted in all Public Schools (2002)
  • Sexually Explicit material on State Computers prohibited (1996)
  • Counseling for Effects of Divorce on Children authorized (1995)

I'm thinking it's time to refresh my memory on my old US History lessons re. fiat money, the Federal Reserve, etc.

What do Wake Forest University and a nightclub in Greensboro have in common?

If my parents, proud alums of Wake Forest University, have any idea what the hell Jersey Shore is then they'll be mortified by this announcement:

Nicole Polizzi, aka "Snooki," will soon make an appearance at Wake Forest University.

Snooki is scheduled to appear at the school's Wait Chapel at 8 p.m. on Friday, January 28, said a spokesperson with the school in a news release.

It's one thing for a nightclub in Greensboro to welcome the latest village idiot who's gained a few minutes of fame in this country, but for a school trying to be mentioned in the same breath as Duke or Rice I think this is a little suspect.  Don't believe me?  Well hell, you'll just have to watch a part of one episode (it won't take long, believe me) because I can't possibly write a paragraph that adequately describes the depravity of the show.

I know it's the school's Student Union that's invited her to appear, and when I was in school my taste ran towards stupid crap like this too, but I just can't fathom why the school is putting out a news release promoting this whole thing.  If I was an administrator I'd be trying to bury this story as deep as I could dig.