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Bistro Sofia and an Evening in Greensboro

On Tuesday night (June 6) Celeste and I drove over to Greensboro for an evening out.  We started with dinner at Bistro Sofia, a restaurant that I found thanks to writing this blog.  The restaurant had a run-in of sorts with someone who wrote about it and then I picked it up and wrote about it a couple of times.  Well, the general manager of the restaurant found my first post and emailed me directly to discuss some of the issues and in the process did exactly what I think any small business should do when confronted with a negative PR situation. That led to a follow up post that kind of laid out the restaurant’s side of the story, but really focused more on how I felt they had done a great job of dealing with a bad situation.

Celeste and I had somewhere to be at 6:30 so we got to the restaurant right when it opened at 5:00.  We were greeted by Kerrie, the GM, and seated in the dining room.  Since we were so early we had the room to ourselves until the end of the meal.  I’m no food critic but I can tell you without hesitation that:

  • Celeste and I agreed this was the best restaurant we’ve eaten in since we moved to North Carolina.
  • We’d put the food, service and ambience up there with any restaurant in D.C.
  • We’d have paid a LOT more in D.C. for a comparable eating experience.

To top it all off the owner of the restaurant and one of the bartenders (Beth and John respectively) stopped by our table to check on us and to talk about the whole "blogging" thing.  Very nice people and again they set a fine example of how to deal with negative PR.  Without going into details I’d say they have a firm grasp on what happened, the mistakes made on their end and also some strong feelings that the other side of the story was skewed.  Fair enough and totally understandable.  I hope that the two sides can get together and come to an understanding.

Suffice it to say that I give the Bistro Sofia a very strong "5" on a five star scale.

After dinner we headed over to the News & Record for a meeting with Lex Alexander and a bunch of bloggers from Greensboro.  It was nice meeting some people whose writings I’ve been reading for years, and there was some interesting conversation about how the newspaper can work with the community in the future.  You can read about it here.

We didn’t hang around after the meeting since we needed to get home to make sure the kids were in bed and ready for their third-to-last-day of school.  But we enjoyed the drive through downtown, which was a Greensboro first for the two of us.  Celeste very much liked the neighborhood around Greensboro College and mentioned how much fun it would be to own a house there and rent it to students.

That, my friends, is a sign of how much we enjoyed dinner and the meeting; it made my wife delusional.

Good Business at Greensboro’s Bistro Sofia

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In April I wrote a blog called Bad Business at Greensboro’s Bistro Sofia, and it referenced a blog post by a woman named Sarah Jones in Greensboro who had a negative experience at Bistro Sofia which included some alleged anti-semitic comments by a waiter and a bunch of other stuff.  My main point in writing the post was that it was amazing how the woman’s story spread thanks to her blog and the fact that it was noticed by a prominent blogger named Ed Cone and then picked up by at least one other blogger in another town in the region (that would be me).  I also pointed out that since Google loves blogs my post might get a high ranking for the search term "Bistro Sofia." Sure enough a month later that post now comes up third with that keyword.  Which is why I eventually came to the attention of Kerrie Thomas, the restaurant’s general manager.  He left a comment on the post and that started a very good email correspondence between us.

Long story short I was not at the restaurant and I don’t know which version of the story is most accurate, but I wanted to say that Kerrie has made a very smart business move by addressing the issue (not wishing it away) and his correspondence with me has been very professional and, I think, forthright.  Kerrie wrote a letter to me explaining their stance on this issue and I am posting it below with his permission.  I think it offers a good lesson in modern PR for any small business.

I’d also like to say I’ve learned a valuable lesson myself.  Sometimes I feel that I’m writing this only for my own entertainment and for an audience of a few friends and family.  The truth is that I never know who’s reading and I have to be careful how I write.  After the correspondence with Kerrie I realized that I neglected to say that the events described were alleged to have happened.  Ed Cone, who is a professional journalist, didn’t make that mistake and I consider it a valuable lesson learned.

So without further ado here’s Kerrie’s letter.  I think it’s worth the read:

To Mr. Jon Lowder:

From Kerrie Thomas

As
briefly as possible I’d like too address the issues raised in the
blog you reference on your sight.  I feel it is critical to note
that the story we know is in stark contrast to the one we read.

First,
the remark made to the couple by their server (and it is our contention
that the exact words of the exchange were quite different than what
has been asserted) was, regardless, poorly chosen and unfortunate. Their
server, even as he recounted the details of their evening, was unaware
that he had in any way offended them and most certainly hadn’t intended
to come across in such a way as to do so.

It
is also important to note that when the remark was brought to my attention
by Mrs. Jones that evening (when she called in reference to the charge
amount) and I asked her what he said that might have been “off color”,
she said that it was a conversation for another day. I immediately apologized
for whatever it might have been and promised to speak to their server,
Joshua, about it at the end of the evening. I also asked if we had taken
care of her otherwise, to which she responded that the food was wonderful
and everyone was really great (or something to that effect).

When
Mrs. Jones emailed the owner, Beth Kizhnerman, the following morning
and we were apprised of what she thought Joshua had said, along with
several pages detailing her entire experience from the moment she walked
in, Beth responded with a written apology. She assured her it was a
misunderstanding, Joshua was truly sorry and that he felt awful about
it.

Second
is the issue regarding the charge amount. When processing the Jones’s
card, Joshua hastily and unwittingly added an extra digit to the amount.
When it was brought to his attention, he apologized, immediately adjusted
the transaction to the correct amount.  Then, he informed the Jones’s
that if they view their account online, the original “charge” will
show up as an authorization amount but will disappear after a couple
of days. Also, if the hold on the account might cause any problems (the
bank will treat that electronic contact from our processor as a hold
regardless of it being adjusted on our end) she should call them, the
bank will then call us and it will be eliminated. It was obviously an
honest mistake and he instructed them on how to properly take care of
it were it to become a problem.

When
Mrs. Jones called soon after their departure that same evening, I was
as yet unaware of anything going awry at her table and thought we had
a good rapport through the evening. She said that they enjoyed their
meal but didn’t think it was worth the $1200.00 that she was viewing
online in her account. Well, of course not. I assured her that we certainly
would not process her card for that amount and it would be taken care
of (not knowing it had already been adjusted). She said it was a debit
card and would cause all sorts of problems. Therefore, I said she would
have to call the bank to have it cleared from her account (because it
isn’t possible for me to discuss her account with the bank). I also
said, reassuring her, that if in fact she had any problems, incurred
any charges or fees whatsoever; we would completely take care of them.
(Conveniently absent from her story). I’m also sure that I apologized
for the error. A few minutes later the bank called to confirm the error
and the authorization amount was cleared.

I
did follow up with Joshua at the end of the shift and asked him to recount
exactly everything he said to the table. It was not in a threatening
way and he had no reason to not speak truthfully to me, especially since
he had no idea what “off color” remark he might have said. 
In the recounting, yes, I realized what she would have been taken aback
by regarding their exchange and I let him know then that it could easily
have been misconstrued. It was careless and he needed to apologize. 
I told him that when we invite them back in, he would be taking care
of them and buying them dinner. To which he said, of course, he would
be glad to.

I
made a note to call her back the next day to follow up on what she had
said about an “off-color” remark. That call, of course, was preempted
by the lengthy morning email Mrs. Jones sent to Beth.
   

The
incongruity of the story is so striking because her version is hyperbolic.
A wonderful experience/a horrible experience.  Characterizations
of our attitudes or about any pretension are just nonsense. Yes, errors
were made by us, they were apologized for multiple times and they were
fixed. Beth apologized to Mrs. Jones in response to her email because
Mrs. Jones sent the email to her personally. There is no higher authority
to apologize to her than the owner. Mrs. Jones at that time seemed satisfied
with the response from Beth and if she wasn’t, she most certainly
could have told us otherwise.

Beth
and I have both since emailed Mrs. Jones personally regarding her disseminating
the story. She has yet to respond, save to say on her blog that she
received a couple of “ugly emails” from Bistro Sofia.  That
is neither a fair nor accurate characterization of them but, once again,
good storytelling. We noted in the posts to Mrs. Jones’s blog many
hateful, inflammatory remarks about our restaurant by people who don’t
even know us and similarly disparaging remarks in subsequent broadcast
emails by folks referencing the blog. An alarming bit of brouhaha over
a single dining experience, especially considering the unadorned story
and the many apologies made to Mrs. Jones. We are nothing like the picture
she paints; it’s a shame that she doesn’t recognize it.

Since
you were referencing it in your blog we thought you should know this.

We’re
an independent, hard working, conscientious, honest, caring group of
people (and anyone familiar with the restaurant is well aware of it).
And, ironically, the restaurant is Jewish owned. We can’t speculate
on Mrs. Jones’s motivation but we hope she will reconsider keeping
that entry on her blog.

Please let me know if you have any
questions.

Thank you for allowing me to write
you.

Kind regards,

Kerrie Thomas

General Manager

Bistro Sofia

Postscript: 
It might be important to note that Mrs. Jones says that while checking
her account later she thought we didn’t charge her at all and then
a couple of days later we did. In fact, nothing else was done regarding
the charge after my conversation with her and the bank the night she
was in.  It was normal bank processing after that.

Repairing the Healthcare System

I don’t have any suggestions for repairing the healthcare system, but I’m hoping this blog does.  The blog’s author is the father of Brad Feld who is one smart dude and prominent blogger.

From his first post:

However, in 2006, the patient and the physician are generally listed last among “important” stakeholders by government, insurance companies, hospitals and policy makers.

Since
the patient is most important stakeholder. The patient should be in the
forefront of policy making. The physician is second.  All the other stakeholders are in reality simply facilitators for the patient and the physician. Everything done in the healthcare system should be done for the benefit of the patient first, and not for the economic bottom line of the other stakeholders. After all it is the patients’ healthcare system! Is it not?  The demand for repairing the healthcare system and action to fix it has to be made by the patient,

Triad SPAM

Today I got an email from Jerry McClough that linked to this page on TriadBlogs.  Here’s the full text of the email:

Nothing but the truth…(click here)!


~Jerry~

Can anyone tell me why I would possibly be added to his list? Sure I’m on the TriadBlogs site, but I don’t live in Greensboro, I’m not a political agitator, I’m not a leader of any community except the little band of voices in my head and I’m not black. I can’t remember ever corresponding with Jerry before and I was BCC’d and not addressed directly, so I’d call this unsolicited email…which some people call SPAM.

In the grand scheme of things it isn’t a big deal at all but it does leave me wondering what Jerry was trying to accomplish.

A Feast of Information

A few weeks ago I gave up on reading RSS feeds through MyYahoo and started using Bloglines and I can’t tell you how much it has helped me.  The change coincided with a ramp-up for me in regards to work so I just don’t have any free time to keep up with reading.  If I were still using MyYahoo I’d be stuck because the RSS feeds are transient; the headlines appear until  they are replaced by the newest posts for that particular feed.  With Bloglines I can save feeds that look interesting and read them later.  Sounds simple, but it is an incredibly valuable tool and when I have the time I’m going to start looking into other tools that might have a similar positive impact on my information consumption.

In looking at my Bloglines feed page I’ve noticed a curious pattern; there are certain blogs (feeds) I check every day and others I let go for a while and within the blogs I read every day there are those that I tend to save lots of stories from and others that, while valuable, provide me with nothing I want to reference later.  Here are some of the blogs I read regularly and the number of stories I’ve saved over the last couple of weeks:

When I think about it I guess it makes sense.  BoingBoing and bookofjoe are both interesting compilations that to me are a unique blend of magazine and catalog, while the others I read more like newspapers.  I probably find just as much of interest on Ed Cone, Vie de Malchance, Hogg’s, etc. but it isn’t the kind of information I save for later use.  On the other hand Boing Boing and bookofjoe always have features about really cool trinkets and doodads that I tell myself I’ll use some day.  Probably not, but it’s the digital equivalent of ripping pages out of magazines/catalogs and stuffing them in a drawer.

BTW, here’s a not-comprehensive list of the things I found valuable enough to save:

Another info-management tool I’m trying to use more is my "social bookmark" page at del.icio.us.  Basically it lets me bookmark and "tag" any pages I come across with keywords that mean something to me.  There’s a little box on the right hand side of my blog that shows my most recent del.icio.us tags but if you want to browse the whole thing you can do it here.

This whole information-overload-management thing is becoming kind of a pain in the ass but I’m hoping to figure out a way to use these tools to organize it all so it is more a fancy feast and less a gluttonous mess.

Know What RSS Is? 2/3 of People Who Use It Don’t

MarketingSherpa has a fascinating article about RSS usage in the UK and America.  According to the article there are 75 million people who use it, but 50 million of them don’t know they’re using it.  How can this be?  According to the article most of the 50 million are people who use MyYahoo or MyMSN and think of the RSS as news headlines or some such thing.

This has huge implications for bloggers, especially business bloggers.  The largest group of RSS consumers are not tech geeks and they don’t know what RSS means and they don’t care, BUT they do value the service.  In the immediate future I’d say it would be really smart to set up an "Add to MyYahoo" link to your site in addition to your generic "RSS Feed" link.

I recommend you read the article fast because MarketingSherpa puts their articles behind a "subscription" wall after a while.

Other valuable links provided at the end of the article:

RSS study charts and data from Neilsen//NetRatings & Yahoo!/Ipsos Reid
http://www.marketingsherpa.com/cs/rsscharts/study.html

How to get your RSS feed included at MyYahoo:
http://publisher.yahoo.com/rss guide/

E-site Marketing – the company Travelocity uses to power their RSS offering:
http://www.esitemarketing.com

Info about the National Library of Medicine’s PubMed RSS Feed
http://www.scripting.com/2006/02/14.html#When:9:35:50PM

MarketingSherpa’s more info about RSS page
http://www.marketingsherpa.com/sample.cfm?contentID=3179

Should You Spy On Your Kids Without a Warrant?

The Winston-Salem Journal’s Ken Otterbourg wrote a blog post about how reporters are using personal blogs and journals on sites like myspace.com and facebook.com to build profiles of people in addition to or in lieu of personal interviews.  One of the stories he highlights is that of the suicide of James Dungy, the son of Indianapolis Colts coach Tony Dungy.  Reporters used his comments on myspace.com to get a sense of the young man that even his parents and friends didn’t have before his death.

Reading this got me to thinking about my own kids. Kids have always had, and always will have an altnernative persona to that which they show at home.  To me that’s healthy, but it’s also scary.  Does their alternate persona put them in danger (hanging out with gang-bangers, unprotected sex, buying drugs, etc.) or is it simply a matter of different language, dress, etc?  I’ll do anything I can to make sure I know the answer to that question.

As far as I know my kids’ only online activity right now is playing Runescape, but honestly I’m not sure. When and if they do start to blog or set up a page on myspace or whatever I’m going to be their most avid reader. They’ll probably know this and they’ll probably try to set up a secret, anonymous presence somewhere, but if and when they do I’ll do my damndest to make sure I find it. Let’s put it this way: I’m thinking of putting something on their computer to track their activity.

Is this "warrantless spying"?  Yep.  Is it wrong?  Nope, because I’m not a public servant. I’m a father and I want to make sure I know what’s going on with my kids.  Now if I’m stupid I’ll find out their doing something I don’t like, say listening to rap and IMing nasty comments to friends, and then ride their case about it.  That would totally defeat the whole purpose.  I’m keeping an eye on them to make sure they aren’t hurting themselves.  If I call them on every little thing I’ll just alienate them and alert them that I’m watching them like a hawk.  On the other hand if I take the attitude that kids will be kids (silly, crude, arrogant, petty, etc.) and reserve intervention for serious matters (secret liaisons with 19 year-old college students, drug buys, etc.) then I’ll be doing what a father should be doing: acting in the best interest of his kids.

Now you might argue that this is the equivalent of reading my kids’ diaries.  First, diaries are truly private.  Posting something on myspace is the equivalent of taping a diary page to the outside of your bedroom door and if you do that I’m going to read it.  Second, if I think something serious is going on with one of my kids I have no problem with cracking their diary to see if I can find out what’s going on.  Not to catch them at something, but to prevent them from getting hurt.  If I don’t find anything like "Yesterday I met Mr. XXX my gym teacher in his office and he kissed me" I’ll put it away and try not to ever let them know I was there.

To put this succinctly I’ll say this: My kids have the right to a perception of privacy, but until they turn 18 they have no rights to real privacy whatsoever. I’ll be polite and knock on their door before I enter their room, but if they say "Go away, I’m busy", I’ll kick the damn thing in without a second thought if I want to.  When you come down to it kids are not-yet-fully-formed human beings.  They can be incredibly naive and it never seems to occur to them that bad things can actually happen to them.  As a parent it’s my job to help them survive long enough to become fully-formed human beings (I’m 39 and I’m still working on it) and I’ll use whatever tools I can to do the job.

It’s the Comments

Ever since I started blogging I’ve been asked the same two questions over and over:

  1. What makes a blog different from a regular website?
  2. Why do you blog?

I’ve often struggled to answer both questions, but over time I came to realize that one overarching feature of blogs attracts me: the comments.

I read other peoples’ blogs because they’re interesting and because I want to see how people react via comments. (A quick aside: I’ve found that I rarely continue to read blogs that have the comments turned off).  A great case study is Ed Cone’s blog post about the furor in the Muslim world over some offensive comics.  I found the 23 comments (when I read it) more interesting than the post itself.  To use a real world analogy I’d find having dinner with Ed and the commenters and listening to their debate over the issue far more interesting than going to speech given by Ed (no offense to Ed, I just don’t much enjoy speeches).

One of the main reasons I continue to write my blog is that I truly enjoy the comments I get.  I really don’t care if someone agrees or disagrees, but I do care that I’m having a form of interaction.  It helps me avoid intellectual petrification because there are a lot of smart people out there and when they provide me with alternate theories, ideas and arguments they give me the gift of context and a larger worldview.

So I guess you could say that the one word answer to both questions is: dialog.