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Leslie and Ian Get Hitched

Leslieandianvows My kid sister Leslie got herself married this past Memorial Day weekend to a fine young man named Ian James.  They had an outdoor wedding on Saturday during a picture-perfect evening on the grounds of Stepne Manor in Chestertown, MD. 

The bride and groom were definitely happy and ready to get on with their lives. Ian’s also a twin so there were lots of jokes about them having twins at a minimum and more likely quadruplets.  The wedding was a small, family affair so unlike many other weddings I’ve been to everyone from both sides of the aisle had ample opportunity to meet each other.

LeslieandvanessaI actually have two kid sisters, twins don’t you know, who managed to
balance out the family’s "attractive meter" after three older brothers
skewed it to the "un" side of the dial.  They both looked lovely on
Saturday.

I think Dad is relieved that he got this one out of the way since this is the first daughter he’s married off, thus this is the first one he was on the hook for.  Now he just has to wait for the call from Vanessa, but I don’t think he’s in a rush.

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In other words I think Dad can wait a while for his next dance.

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EOGs and Hens

This is EOG (End of Grade) testing week at the Winston-Salem/Forsyth County Schools. Esbee writes of her son asking where his healthy breakfast is because his teacher exhorted his class to make sure they have a healthy breakfast in preparation for the tests.  My kids have been exhorted to eat healthy breakfasts during every EOG week since they’ve been in the school system.  Erin, my lovely straight-A daughter, asked me to show her how to fry eggs on Monday so that she could make them for herself each morning this week.  She’d been informed by one of her teachers that eggs were the best form of protein and that it was essential that she eat them this week so that she could perform at peak level on the tests.  If I’d known they were going to give this advice I’d have invested in some hens last month so that I could corner the EOG egg market.

All of this begs the question of why the teachers aren’t concerned about our kids’ protein consumption the other 30-odd weeks (or whatever it is) of the school year?  Is it not important that our kids have proper nutrition to learn those mundane daily reading, writing and ‘rithmetic lessons?  Are they implying that learning isn’t as important as performing

Esbee also writes that she thinks the EOGs put an inordinate amount of pressure on the kids. As you might have guessed I’m in total agreement with her.  I wonder if the teachers and administrators are actually shooting themselves in the foot by putting such an emphasis on the tests.  How many kids do poorly on the tests because they freeze under pressure?  I knew a lot of kids who were much better students than me who did much worse on standardized tests than I did because they tested poorly, and they tested poorly because they stressed way too much about the tests.  In other words I benefited greatly from my laissez faire attitude towards education and my friends who were diligent students often suffered from caring so much.  But in the long run who’s better off?   Let me just say this: my SAT scores were better than my wife’s but she was an honor student while I was a mediocre student.  There’s one person in this house who knows how to apply algebra to every day situations and it’s not me.  She learned, I performed.

While I’m all for measuring students’ progress and holding our educators accountable for their work I think that standardized testing is a hammer being used for a screwdriver’s job.  We’re talking about teaching children, not programming computers.  These are little people trying to learn how to make their way in the world.  Is it fair to judge a teacher who has 30 kids, 20 of whom are from broken homes or have parents working three jobs to make ends meet, with the same yardstick you’re using to measure a teacher who has 30 kids, most of whom come from stable homes with parents that have the time to read to them at bed time and take them to the library?  Is it fair to quantify a year’s learning simply by using test results? Wouldn’t it be better to somehow measure a child’s learning relative to their unique situation and the teacher’s performance relative to their circumstance?  Wouldn’t it be better to somehow reform our education system so that we emphasize continual growth and learning and the practical application of that knowledge in building a better life?  Maybe then we’ll make education relevant enough that 1/3 of our kids don’t drop out of school.

But, I’m a realist so I think I’ll start building a hen house out back.  Anyone know how to figure the area I’ll need?  Everything I "learned" about geometry I forgot as soon as I put down the #2 pencil.   

We’re Number 1,294!

Esbee points to the Newsweek list of top high schools in the US of A.  Winston-Salem/Forsyth County has two schools on the list: Mt. Tabor at #185 and West Forsyth at #1,294. Our kids are either at West or are headed that way so I’m happy to see them on the list, which is better than not being on it at all.  But of course these kinds of lists are subjective so they need to be taken with a grain of salt. 

Out of curiosity I looked to see the ranking of the school our kids would have gone to if we’d stayed in Northern Virginia.  I believe they would have gone to Forest Park which was ranked 1,019 so not a whole lot of difference.  If we’d not moved from our very first home in West Springfield, VA our kids’ high school would have been ranked #244.

I also looked to see how my old high school (the one I attended before transferring to a small Lutheran H.S.) ranked and Washington-Lee in Arlington County, VA came in at #64.  The other schools I would have attended had I not gone to the small Lutheran school (we moved a lot) were Oakton (#103) in Vienna, VA and Marshall (not ranked) in Fairfax, VA.  Celeste’s alma mater, Potomac H.S. is ranked #562.

Now if my kids are anything like me they’ll pick their colleges based on the list of top party schools and not the Newsweek listing of top colleges by various categories.  Of course my children are much wiser than I’ll ever be.

Justin’s 12

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So our youngest son, Justin, turned 12 this weekend.  Hard to believe, but in one year all of our kids will be teenagers.  If you’d asked me last year if I felt old enough to have three teenagers I’d have said "no way."  Well, having just two has aged me exponentially and I have a feeling that having a third is going to push the turbo button on the energy sapping, gray hair producing process known as parenting teenagers.

Of course that means I’m really starting to relish the waning moments of true childhood.  Justin and his buddies still do the silly, juvenile things that boys are known for.  Well, okay, we males never truly outgrow doing silly, juvenile things but at least it’s still appropriate for him.  That means it was annoying, yet acceptable, that he and his two friends decided to reenact much of Iron Man after we left the theater on Saturday.  Luckily they only came close to knocking over an AARP member four or five times while we waited in line at Kernel Kustard.  It also means that it was totally understandable that after several hours of hanging out with those kids I was ready to retreat to a cave with a case of beer, not to be heard from for at least 24 hours. 

Unfortunately in the next couple of years we’ll be past the age of innocence and we’ll be hip deep in teen angst on three different levels.  Think about it.  In three years we’ll have an 18 year old son, a 17 year old daughter and a 15 year old son.  Our garage will be full of Clearasil, my psyche will be bruised from all the accusations of being a total dork who just doesn’t "get it" and our bank account will hold only a whiff of the money it used to contain.  Oh, and we’ll be on the precipice of having three kids with drivers licenses, not to mention the impending drama of sending kids off to college at which point I’m pretty sure I’ll be shuttling Celeste to daily therapy sessions (she hates it when I do these "picture the future" things).  Good night, I need a beer just thinking about it.

So let’s just say that running around with a few pre-teen boys, no matter how out of control they may seem, is actually something I cherish.  And to be honest I’m going to miss having the "boy" Justin around.  He’s a unique, wonderful kid and I’m positive he’s going to be an amazing young man, but I’d like to keep the kid around a little longer if I can.  I know it’s impossible, but one can wish.

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Happy birthday J.